Is Gossiping Worth It?

Heaven Grochoske, Staff Writer

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Gossiping is defined as speaking to someone who is neither directly part of the problem or the solution, concerning another person who is not present. Gossip is so common, and also creates a huge impact in our daily conversations and relationships, that it’s never even noticed until you end up being the victim. Now I know, I’ve personally always welcomed the theory that gossip was the reason language developed, and there’s nothing wrong with communicating. Researchers always make it sound promising and credible that gossip was the great evolutionary leap that human apes to live peacefully in large groups and build civilizations. Yet, maybe it’s being taken too far when 80 percent of conversations are spent discussing other people and their habits. Everyone uses gossip in some way, but there can be many different reasons.

It is common to use gossip as a tool to make ourselves feel better, compare, and almost have a realization that it is easier to talk about other’s flaws than focus on our own. The ‘in crowd’ can sound promising, especially when gossiping makes you feel like you are a part of something, connected and trusted. Recent studies from phycologists have found that gossiping is just as harmful to the gossiper as it is to the person being talked about. The many realistic, yet unnoticed, effects of focusing on the negative aspects of someone include feeding a false sense of superiority, even when gossip sows distrust between relationships and destroys your integrity. Is harming your relationships with the people around your worth it?

Obviously I can’t stop everyone from gossiping because there can be many different definitions. The common quote ‘sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me’ has many different meanings depending on your personal experiences. It is likely to think of it like whoever wrote this hasn’t been talked about because words do hurt. If you actually, deeply analyze this quote it is saying that maybe words can harm you but you shouldn’t let words cause retaliation. You can make the choice of why and how words hurt, so why not prevent words from causing you pain? Next time you hear gossip that could cause issues, be an advocate for yourself and others. Simply ask ‘why are you telling me this?’ it will eventually take the attention and motive away from them and no valid answer could be provided.

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Is Gossiping Worth It?